BDSM Myths Exposed with the Help of Surrender BDSM!

We at Surrender BDSM understand that many people who are unfamiliar with the BDSM role playing lifestyle might believe many myths associated with the bondage lifestyle, and we would love to clear a few of these myths up today because what you’ve heard, probably isn’t true!

If you’re on the fence about wanting to participate in some sort of BDSM role playing scenario, please read this article because we are going to debunk many myths about this kinky fetish that should help you feel more comfortable about giving it a shot.

Believe it or not but BDSM really isn’t anything to be afraid of, and honestly, there are many aspects of this kink that can be beneficial to ones health.

BDSM Myth #1: BDSM Is Extremely Painful and You’ll Get Hurt!

BDSM isn’t only about hurting, spanking, beating up or slapping someone around because you can play hours without causing or receiving pain.

BDSM can be light and with touches of eroticism, involving subtle role playing, and fetishes solely based on kinky outfits made of latex, leather, or lace.

BDSM Myth #2: Everything You Need To Know About BDSM Is In 50 Shades Of Grey!

There’s a heck of a lot more to BDSM than what’s portrayed in the book, or movie, 50 Shades of Grey.

Just like marijuana is considered the “gateway drug” to harder drugs, I’d consider 50 Shades Of Grey as the “gateway drug” to better BDSM practices…also, I recommend that couples watch 50 Shades Of Grey together as a way of opening up the discussion about BDSM to try a few things out together…but in no way does this movie represent more than 3% of the BDSM lifestyle and philosophy.

BDSM Myth #3: Only Weird Perverts Participate In BDSM!

If you’ve never dipped your toes into the BDSM swimming pool of kink, and only based your ideas on what you’ve seen in the media, then you’ve probably formulated the opinion that only weirdoes, sickcos and sexually perverse people participate in BDSM, but actually nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM participants can be happy, healthy, open-minded and ready to explore their sexual identities, as well as being less judgmental on people with sexual preferences other than theirs.

BDSM Myth #4: Only Men Can Be Dominants!

Many of our female customers just happen to be DOMS, and they tell us that just as many men prefer submissive roles as they do dominate roles.

As you get started on your BDSM journey don’t be afraid to test out both submissive and dominant roles so you can discovery which role brings you the most pleasure.

BDSM Myth #5: Subs Are Submissive In Their Everyday Lives!

Many powerful CEO’s and other successful professionals tend to switch their real life roles of being “dominant” bosses in their real lives to that of the submissive role player in their BDSM fantasies. It’s a form of relaxation, providing a sense of relief of the burden of being constantly responsible for others in their everyday lives.

BDSM Myth #6: Dominants Are Sadistic & Dangerous!

Dominants obviously do enjoy having power over their submissive, and lead their sessions, but everything is agreed upfront. BDSM relationships are highly consensual and most dominants are only going to practice something the submissive likes and enjoys.

BDSM Myth #7: Only Gay Men Participate In BDSM Anal Play!

This is not true whatsoever. Prostate massage or stimulation by hand or a strap-on brings men very intense feelings equivalent to female G-spot stimulation.

So if you’re a straight man testing out BDSM don’t be afraid to let your lover use a strap-on at least a few times on you so you can enjoy new sexual sensations that you’ve never felt before.

BDSM Myth #8: 100% Of BDSM Sex Is Painful & Aggressive!

For many kinksters, BDSM does not always include sexual penetration, and in fact, some BDSM practices forbid sex altogether, such as male and female chastity, and orgasm denial; Orgasm denial is the act of not letting your submissive reach an orgasm just when they are very close to having one.

BDSM Myth #9: Once You Try BDSM The Regular Sex Becomes Too Boring!

This is also not true whatsoever! People that participate in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular “vanilla” sex just like everyone else does.

BDSM Myth #10: BDSM Is Abuse!

This is 100% false. BDSM participants establish “safe words” that can be used to inform all participants that it’s time to cool things down if their chosen “safe word” is said out loud.

Participants should always talk before, during, and after a scene or moment to make sure everyone is on the same page. BDSM in a healthy, consensual environment is not abuse. It is a physical manifestation of desires and urges, no matter how dark or dangerous.

BDSM Myth #11: BDSM Is For People That Suffer From Depression!

Again, this is false. There’s an odd generalization that people who practice BDSM are somewhat darker and more psychologically damaged. However, a large-scale sexual health study on the mental well-being of those that practiced BDSM compared to those that are maybe sexually more traditional found that BDSM practitioners would have better attachments and relationships than their counterparts. They were also far less anxious, more intimate and far more extroverted, which led to very positive mental health and general happiness.

BDSM Myth #12: BDSM Leads To Infidelity!

Believe it or not but couples that participate in BDSM tend to cheat less because they’re extremely open and honest about their sexual desires with each other which means they don’t have to find someone else to help quench their sexual appetites.

Well I hope that after reading about these myths you’re more open to giving BDSM a go because it really will open up your mind and body to an awareness of sexual gratification that you can only achieve from BDSM role playing experiences.

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